After years of observation, coupled with good and bad, novel and weird experiences, I thought I must pen down, especially for the men out there who like to be around a good woman but ends up with a victimizer. There are countless questions pertaining to women that have always puzzled men and some questions are answered here.
Are women really beautiful?
Undoubtedly, women are beautiful, from a man's eye. However, taste sometimes differ in men but psychologically, men are instinctively attracted to the opposite sex. But some men would casually appreciate another man's handsomeness; a woman would go beyond an appreciation for another woman's beauty.
Women talk about everything, I mean everything. You will observe that when a man talks about his sex life, his friends would turn it into a mischievous adventure, but when a woman talks about her sex life, her friends discuss the issue like they are in a boardroom.
It is very disturbing and perplexing for men to find a geek hanging around with a beautiful woman. The man will question, "What the heck she sees in him?" The answer is that some women give more importance to the way a man is treating her than what he looks like, of course there are few, sorry more exceptions. This sort of proves that as long as men treat women the way she wants to be treated, she will fall for that man even if he isn't good looking. Of course, she always has an escape route if she ever wants to explore sex with a handsome man and most women do use this quite often without letting anybody know.
Women's beauty is a man's weakness and women are extremely happy with it. In order to incite sexual feelings in a man, she only has to wear revealing clothes and the work is done. But a man's work is much tougher. If he wants to impress a woman, he has to use enormous numbers of witty one-liners. Let's accept that it is a hard job.
A man will have to ignore what he feels about the woman and say what the woman wants to hear.
Why women are stronger than men?
Men are instinctively attracted toward women without even exploration the source. And a woman knows exactly how and why men are attracted to them.
Women will naturally be excellent sexologists because of their in-depth knowledge about men's sexual psyche. And men blindly allow his sexual feelings to take over his disposition and women just love that. Sometimes men do fear of analyzing their sexual psyche because they feel they might lose their sexual interest from women, which is absolutely untrue.
Men will begin to do things that would fuel their hope of satisfy their sexual desires from the woman they admire. And that is where a woman comes into action in manipulating the whole situation. She will use each and every tool in her closet to starve the man from sexual satisfaction and will also not allow his admiration for her to die out. He will be hanging in the mid-air in the hope of getting the woman and also won't decide to give up on her. This is how men voluntarily shed their mental strength and consider women as stronger than them.
The mere fact that men take all crisis in their stride and women freely complain over petty issues proves that men are stronger than women. But men believe that if they are helpless in front of a woman sexually, he thinks that women are stronger than him.
Are women more intelligent than men?
The physical strength that women lack is made up with an extra ability to communicate. Men are born thinkers. They think more than they speak.
Women have an impressive ability to argue and turn the tables around in her favour even when she knows she is wrong. Men, even though they are physically stronger and more courageous, they are, in their heart, gullible. They like to be soft and gentle with women. Women like to control men with force.
They believe that if a woman is beautiful, then she has to be a good natured and intelligent, and when they realize that it isn't true, they prefer to stick to their belief.
Many a times, employers hire women who are beautiful and good talkers, but even after realizing that his judgment about her ability and intelligence was wrong, the employer continues to make erroneous decision in the future. Could it be true that words speaks louder than action? Never know in women's case.
Yes, not all women are stupid, but not all men can use their high intelligence when they are with a woman. Men are more intelligent than women, but it's the woman who uses more of her little intelligence.
How to win an argument with a woman?
The only way to win an argument with a woman is never to argue with her. Discuss. Women hate discussing sentimental issues with men. They like to manipulate the emotional side of a man to get what she wants. They fear that if men begin to think, they will not get the desired behaviour from the man.
Men have to learn the skills of lying and manipulating. Women are naturals.
As the saying goes, "When you open the door of the heart of a woman, you will find yet another door inside." They never say what they mean and say what they don't exactly mean.
Woman's position is dominant in a relationship as long as she remains enigmatic to the man. They strive to know what the man is thinking to revise her stand in his life, and will conceal her own feelings to keep the man guessing. She likes men to be ever creative and find new ways to please her.
And if she detects that the man is getting laid back in the relationship, to bring him back on his toes, she will enact a situation that will make the man guilty of not taking care of the woman as she expects. Men need change but women hate change. To keep everything the same the woman will want men to change.
Men feel guilty very soon and that is a powerful weapon in the hands of women, but men don't know that. Even if she isn't hurt, she will show the man that he has hurt her feelings and he should feel guilty if he really loves her. This way the man never realizes that he is actually a better lover then his woman.
How can you manipulate a woman?
This is a million-dollar question, isn't it? To know what women thinks could unravel the mystery of the universe, to say the least. Women could be natural manipulator, but men can learn the skills of manipulation if they observe the woman meticulously.
A man could possibly live without a woman, but a woman definitely cannot live without a man. Even though women are more desperate to be with a man, but it's the man who expresses his impatience to be with a woman.
Women are more physical than men. They are more particular about the way she dress, looks and walks. Men are like the adventurous wanderers; they like to be what they really are. It is understandable that when women are working so very hard to look good, she wants men also to put efforts to praise her hard work.
Women feel more insecure than men, but it is the man who expresses his possessiveness. Man knows that other men could easily take his woman for a rid and so he dislikes his woman to talk to other men. Women know that all men are attracted to beautiful women, and so she dislikes when she sees another woman getting friendly with her man and demands her man to start mistreating the other woman.
The most common mistake a man makes is to 'try' to satisfy the woman. First, it is highly unlikely that a woman knows what she really wants and what will make her happy. A man will spend all his life to do exactly what a woman wants and still the woman will complain that she isn't happy. The problem here is women don't know what will make her satisfied and eternally happy. 'Happiness lies within' is something women can't understand.
The only way to manipulate a woman is to be a woman yourself. Think like a woman. Of course, don't behave and dress like a woman. If men too start complaining on petty issues like women do, if men too start making women guilty, if men too talk to women just like other women talk to her, if men too show that he is hurt by her action/words, then that man can manipulate the woman.
However, there is no one rule because there are 'n' numbers of varieties of women out there who are waiting to show men how enigmatic they are. Women can easily drive men crazy by complaining about his behaviour toward her and still she never let's him know what exactly she wants. As long as she makes the man guilty of not satisfying his woman, she will have an upper hand.
Women like men to share his feelings. But men feel uncomfortable to do so because of the obvious reason, which women prefer not to understand. That is why women dislike unpredictable men and force men to believe that his woman is unpredictable and so he must be very careful. Men must say what he doesn't mean and mean what he doesn't say.
Men are basically more honest to their woman and feel uneasy if they have to pretend. Women are comfortable pretending anything, anytime. She can show that she is madly in love with a man even when she actually loves somebody else. Men, if they don't like a woman, he will not be able to conceal his lack of interest.
Manipulation is all about controlling the present moment. Doesn't matter who eventually wins in the end, but women aim to win in the present and remain unconcerned about the end. Women deal with a situation one at a time and men tries to solve the problem in one go. Women are very patient if she wants to change a man; men are impatient and take drastic steps if he wants to change a woman, and ends up seeing himself changed by that woman.
Manipulation is handling the situation that is suitable for men at that particular moment and even if what he says and does isn't really him, he must do what the situation demands in order to remain in control of the situation. It is a mind games and what a man feels is not necessarily to be conveyed to the woman. If they are in the dark, let then remain in there. You can never convince women to think from your perspective. A woman can never understand a man but will continue to make assumptions because they know men really don't care to correct them.
I hope men will be benefited from my observation. I also expect women will to be upset with me for unveiling their secrets. This article will go on and on if I have to write everything I know about women. Therefore, I adjourn this workshop on, "What Women Think?"
What women think?
Relatives- and their Perceptions
Career management tips for newly weds
The moment we hear of career management tips for newly weds, it is the female counterpart that first comes to our mind. It’s a known fact that we need a good career for financial security and a good married life for emotional and social security.Therefore career and marriage, both are equally important for a good life. Importance of none of the two can be ignored. In a marriage where you are committed to spend a whole lifetime with your partner, you need to understand each other well.This understanding will develop in a couple only if they spend quality time together, especially at the initial stages of their marriage. But at the same time,in today’s competitive world, your career also needs long hours of your day. In such a situation, the only option left with us is to manage things well.
Now the question is how to make a good balance between your career and the beginning of your lifelong venture i.e. marriage! Since both needs a pretty good amount of your time for a better tomorrow;this management is not that easy. The first thing that will help you is spending quality time with your spouse. It does not refer to a huge amount of your time but whatever time you are left with, that should be spent with your spouse in making a healthy base for your further life. You should be clear to your spouse about what future goals are there in your mind that takes most of your time at your workplace. You should share with your partner how your work will benefit them as a couple. This is important because one should know about the future benefits for which you compromise with your valuable present. The human psychology working here is that everyone likes the feeling of ‘BEING CARED’. So a newly wed couple should spend time in sharing and caring.
Another important thing is to cooperate your spouse in every walk of life. It is quite natural that expectations grow when you are close in a relationship. But remember not to be much demanding. In many cases an interfering family has been held responsible for worsening the relationship between a newly wed couple. As a spouse, you should give space to your partner’s career. Without this cooperation, only the either one will survive;career or marriage. And your spouse may lifelong nurture that he or she, specifically she, did not receive a word of comfort when she needed that most. Being empathetic will help you most. Otherwise,it will be too late when you understand where you lagged behind.
You should remember that many interruptions will come the way to your female counterpart’s career. Childbirth is one such inevitable break in a female’s career.
There are several points at which you may need your partner’s cooperation; like, in household, with work schedules etc.
Always remember that there may come many genuine causes that may put your career at the backseat after your marriage. Only your strong determination towards career will give you strength. You should not forget that it has taken long years to achieve a career of your choice, so it should not be a quick and foolish decision to give it up. With little bit of understanding and effort, you can make a nice balance between your career and your marriage.
Murphy's laws on girls
This is for everyone…so take some time and read on….
Murphy's laws on girls…..
1. If u think a girl is beautiful, she'll always have a boyfriend to confirm
that
2. the nicer she is…the quicker u will be dumped!!!!!
3. The more the makeup, worse the looks…
4. "95% of the girls in this world are beautiful. Remaining 5%
would always be in your college."……………..100% true
5. The guy standing next to a beautiful girl can never be her
brother.
6. If by any chance the girl you like , likes you too, she will
let you know in about 10 years from now ,when you are committed..
7. The more you ignore a girl, the more she'll want to be friends
with you.
8. Theory of relativity……
The more u run towards a hot chick….the more she goes away from u…
9. Rule 1:
Even if you got her out alone… just when you are about to let her know
about your feelings…she will spot a long lost friend( I guess from
Kumbh ka Mela)
Corollary to rule 1:
The more desperate you are to tell your feelings to a girl on a private
chat, the more probability the long lost friend she discovered is a
handsome superman, who beats you in everything 9:1
Axiom 1:
The more dedicated you are to the girl, the longer it takes before
Things work out, but ultimately it will (somesmile for the guys)
10. the day the chick you really like comes and speaks to you
will be the day when-
· You are dressed badly
· You forgot to brush your teeth for the first time in your
life
· Have a bad hair day
11. all the good girls are either nuns or married .the rest go
around with u and ruin ur money,health and leave u a total wreck.
12. the more seriously u like a girl…the more seriously her dad
will hate u
13. the love you shower a girl with is directly proportional to
the number of bullets her dad will be showering at you
That crazy little thing called Love
That crazy little thing called love
Every popular song is about it, half our books and films obsess over it, everybody wants it. But when we come to ask what love is, we are overwhelmed by a myriad different ideas and experiences. On the one hand, love can lift us up; on the other, it can destroy us. The problem is further compounded because we generally also feel tremendous love for our mothers, our children, our friends - even chocolate. Or maybe especially chocolate. How can one little word cover so many different nuances of feeling? More importantly, if love means different things to different people, how can we ever effectively communicate it?
Scientists have been trying to define love according to their frame of reference for a very long time. The pioneering sexologist Havelock Ellis provided a famous but entirely incorrect mathematical formula: love equals a physical relationship plus friendship. Freud dismissed romantic love as the sex urge, blocked. Social biologists have scanned our brains and identified three chemicals— dopamine, phenyl ethylamine and oxytocin — which they claim attract us exclusively to our mates for long enough, in their opinion, to conceive and give the offspring a secure start.
All of this is mildly diverting, but of no use when someone looks into your eyes and tells you that they love you.
Dictionaries are not much help either. They list almost two dozen definitions — including affection, fondness, caring, liking, concern, attraction, desire and infatuation. We all instinctively agree there is a huge difference between liking and complete infatuation. What we need is a new lexicon, something to help us negotiate and understand all the different types of love.
Psychologist Dorothy Tennov has already taken the first step towards this goal. She interviewed 500 people from different backgrounds and age groups, both gay and straight, about falling in love, and found a startling similarity in how each respondent described their feelings.
The basic components were: intrusive thinking (you can’t stop daydreaming about them); an aching in the heart; an acute sensitivity to any act or thought which can be interpreted favourably; fear of rejection and unsettling shyness in their presence; intensification through adversity (at least up to a point) and a disregard for all other concerns.
Tennov also discovered ‘a remarkable ability to emphasize what is truly admirable and avoid dwelling on the negative’. Love is, in other words, blind, deaf and completely oblivious to foolishness.
To distinguish between these overwhelming emotions and the more stable, domestic feelings experienced by long-term couples who are only too aware of their partner’s failings, Tennov coined a new term: limerence.
The obsessive, intrusive nature of limerence would be immediately recognizable to Martin: ‘I met her at a salsa class, the attraction was instant and we ended up exchanging telephone numbers, even though I knew she was married.
‘It was impossible to get down to work until we’d had our morning talk. I’d ache if she didn’t call.’ Twelve months later, when the affair had ended, Martin realized that they had little in common. He put the attraction down to ‘lust’, yet the affair had been mostly non-intimate.
Tennov confirms: ‘Sexual attraction is not enough. Selection standards for limerence are, according to my informants, not identical to those according to which mere sexual partners are evaluated, and intimacy is seldom the main focus for limerence. However, the potential for mating is felt to be there, or the state described is not limerence.’
When someone is under the spell of limerence, not even being rejected dampens down the madness. If limerence is returned, the feelings intensify and the couple end up ignoring their friends. Sadly, these intense feelings never last.
Tennov puts the duration somewhere between six months and two years. This is a very similar figure to that proposed by social biologist Cindy Hayman of Cornell University, who tracked the brain chemicals of 5,000 subjects in 37 different cultures, and found this phase lasted between 18 months and three years.
It is important to have a new word for these intense feelings, for two reasons. First, it recognizes the normality of borderline crazy behaviour in the first stages of love, which could easily be stigmatized as stalking, or pathologized as too much in self-help books such as Women Who Love Too Much, by Robin Norwood. Secondly, when limerence wears off, some people fear they are falling out of love.
In reality, love has just moved on to a new phase, and many people use limerence as a springboard for a long-term relationship. Arguably, we need this temporary madness, to convince us to set up home and intertwine our destinies with relative strangers.
While scientists have not researched precisely what it is that makes us choose one person over another, they have looked at what makes a good long-term partnership. At this stage we pick people who are like us, or who complement us in some hidden way.
Often, we search for other people with whom we can act out the issues we were unable to resolve as children. Our partners have to speak the same language, or there is simply no connection. I call this kind of deep, intertwined love ‘loving attachment’. Unlike limerence it is based on rational ‘eyes open’ choices about compatibility. Unlike limerence, loving attachment dies if it is not reciprocated, especially physically. Unlike limerence, loving attachment can last forever.
To truly understand loving attachment, it is necessary to clarify the difference between the love for our partner and that for our children and our parents. Popular romance feeds us the idea of unconditional love, and during the limerence something approaching this is often achieved. However, once a couple has moved on to loving attachment, unconditional love becomes a distant memory.
Most couples end up in my office because one half feels that their love is not returned, and because of that, over time, they have detached themselves from the relationship. In contrast, the love for our children or parents is seldom conditional. I call this bond loving affection, because affection exists largely independently of how the recipient responds.
The confusion between loving attachment and loving affection can cause just as much misery as the confusion over limerence. Love is a source of tremendous joy and comfort. However, it will also be the source of untold pain, until we begin to differentiate between the three strands contained in just one four-letter word. Maybe this new lexicon can help us understand each other better. —
very shocking but it is true
Very Shocking.....
This is a real story of a young college girl who passed away last month in
Chandigarh. Her name was Priya. She was hit by a truck.
She was working in a call center. She had a boy friend named Shankar.
Both of them were true lovers. They always talked on the phone.
You used to be never found without her without handphone. In fact she also
changed her cell connection from Airtel to Hutch, so that both of them can
be on the same network, and save on the cost.
She used to spend half of the day talking with shankar.
Priya's family knew about their relationship. Shankar was very close to
Priya's family as well.. (Just imagine their
love) . Before she passed away she always told her friends "If I pass away
please burn me with my handphone" she also said the same thing to her
parents.
After her death, people cudnt carry her body, A lot of them tried to do so
but still cant everybody had tried to carry the body, the results were the
same. Eventually, they called a person known to one of their neighbours, who
can speak with the soul of dead person and who was a friend of her father.
He took a stick and started speaking to himself slowly.
After a few minutes, he said "this girl misses something here." Then her
friends told that person about her intentions to burn her with her phone.
He then opened the grave box and place her phone and sim card inside the
casket. After that they tried to carry the body. It was then moved easily
and they then carried her into the van.
All of us were shocked. Priya's parents did not inform Shankar that Priya
had passed away.
After 2 weeks Shankar called Priya's mom......
Shankar :...."Aunty, I'm coming home today. Cook something nice for me.
Don't tell Priya that I'm coming home today, I wanna surprise her."
Her mother replied..... "You come home first, I wanna tell you something
very important."
After he came, they told him the truth about Priya.
Shankar thinks
that they were playing a fool. He was laughing and said "don't try to fool
me - tell Priya to come out, i have a gift for her. Please stop this
nonsense".
Then they show him the original death certificate to him.
They gave him proof to make him believe. (Shankar started to sweat) He
said... "Its not true. We spoke yesterday.. She still calls me.
Shankar was shaking.
Suddenly, Shankar's phone rang. "see this is from Priya, see this...."
he showed the phone to priya's family. all of them told him to answer. he
talked using the loudspeaker mode.
All of them heard his conversation..
Loud and clear, no cross lines, no humming.
It is the actual voice of Priya & there is no way others could use her sim
card since it is nailed inside the grave box
They were so shocked and asked
for the same person's
(who can speak with the soul of deal persons) help again. He brought his
master to solve this matter.
He & his master
worked for 5 hours.
Then they discovered one thing which really shocked them...
Vodafone has the best coverage.
"Where ever you go, our network follows!!!"
6 Tips for Single Moms: How to Jumpstart Your Dating Life
My inbox gets flooded every single day with emails from women who ask me, "Your advice is great, but I've got kids. Will it work for me?" The answer is YES!
All the advice I give single women can be used by single moms, too. Now granted, the dating pool for single mothers is a little smaller. To find a great and amazing guy, you need to work a bit harder - and learn how to flirt.
Here are a few tips that will help jumpstart your single-mom dating life:
1. Let's say you are eyeballing Tall, Dark & Handsome who is in the checkout line near you, when little Johnny starts to throw a temper tantrum. Instead of yelling at him because he picked the wrong moment to start a temper tantrum, look at Tall, Dark & Handsome and say, "
Did you used to be like that when you were a kid?
Did you used to be like that when you were a kid?" Tall, Dark & Handsome will start laughing, and you will start flirting while little Johnny continues with his temper tantrum. I can't think of a more romantic way to meet men.
2. You are in the supermarket, and you and little Johnny are in heavy cereal negotiations. You want little Johnny to have the "breakfast of champions," but Johnny wants Lucky Charms. Tall, Dark & Handsome walks right by you. He's laughing and smiling at the ongoing negotiations. Instead of ignoring him, grab those boxes of cereal out of little Johnny's hand and say, "Excuse me, can you help settle an argument? I want my son to be a champion, but he just wants magically delicious. Which one would you choose?"
3. You go to the park and little Johnny is playing with little Katie. Did you ever think that Katie's father might be a single father? So, instead of standing in the corner of the playground, take a look at the man who's looking at Katie.
Smile, walk over and talk about your kids.
Smile, walk over and talk about your kids.
4. When online dating, it's really important that the first picture a man sees of you in your profile is one of YOU, not your family. Let him meet your kids when the time is right, but don't post the family on the Internet. When you do that, it looks like you are advertising for little Johnny's next father.
5. When writing an online profile, talk about YOUR passions. Talk about things you like to do besides being a mother. Sure, you can talk about how passionate you are about being a mom. But way too many single mothers write about all the activities they do with their kids.
We men know how much your kids mean to you.
We men know how much your kids mean to you. We just want to know that there's a little time left over for you to have an adult relationship. So, in your profile, you could maybe write something like, "When I am not performing my soccer mom duties, I look forward to some one-on-one adult time with my friends... and possibly you." It's all about how you word it.
6. When you're on a date, don't spend the entire time talking about little Johnny's math achievements or his ability to leap tall buildings in a single bound. Let a man know all about what's interesting about you besides your children. Keep things balanced -- talk some about the kids, talk more about you.
7 Dating Ups and Downs
Dating is a process a lot of us really can live without. It's an emotional rollercoaster that can drive you to drink four year-old bottles of Mike's Hard Lemonade from the back of your refrigerator.
Here's my list of the top ups and downs of dating -- and how to feel better about them:
1. Stop the mental post-date recap abuse. You went out with somebody with whom you thought you had a connection, and it turns out you didn't. So now you're going to mentally torture yourself for the next four days trying to figure out what you said wrong. You'll even torture all your friends asking them what you could have done differently.
The post-date recap is a form of mental torture.
The post-date recap is a form of mental torture. You will never know what that other person is thinking unless they call you. If they don't call, it really does mean that he or she is just not that into you (which is about the only good advice from that ridiculously stupid book).
2. We made out in the parking lot and they never called again. Making out is fun! You needed it. They needed it. Don't beat yourself up that you did it, just realize you did it. Be okay with it. It was a great date. You were in the moment, and you experienced something that you wanted to do.
3. I texted them the next morning and said, "I had a great time last night," and they never texted back. So what? You had a great time last night. So did they. They just woke up, and their post-date recap was different from yours. They probably had a good time, but when they thought about it, the chemistry and the "it" factor wasn't there. It's not about you. At least you were honest. So you did all you can do.
4. Should I have said something different in my voicemail message? You left a voicemail message and now you're replaying it in your head a thousand times. "Should I have said 'Last night was fun' with more enthusiasm? Is that why she's not calling me back?"
When it comes to voicemail messages, the shorter the better.
When it comes to voicemail messages, the shorter the better. From an old sales technique, I always prefer to say, "Last night was fun. I have something really funny to share with you the next time we speak." That's it -- it creates a little bit of intrigue, a little bit of mystery and no mental torture.
5. Who cares what they think? You left the above voicemail message without knowing if you'll ever see them again, and they don't call you back. You start to think, "Now they know that I like them, and they don't like me." So what? Is it better to just sit there and hope and pray they call? I always believe in being honest. You've got to do what feels right for you.
6. Stop giving your power away to one person. If a two-hour date can cause you to give away all your power and confidence, then you need to learn to embrace yourself and love yourself more. This is just one person you went out with for two hours. They don't know what an amazing person you are. The only thing they know is the person they sat across from at the table. Whether they choose to hang with you again isn't the issue. The issue is that one person does not determine your worthiness. You've got to toughen your skin.
Rejection is what dating is all about
Rejection is what dating is all about; you can't take it personally. If I go out with someone and I have a great time but they never want to see me again, I'm still a great person the next day.
Want some tips about dealing with dating rejection? See them here
7. In order to feel better about dating, you need to think abundance. Just because you think you like somebody and they don't call you back, this is not the last person in the world you're going to meet. In order to be a successful dater, you need to practice abundance. The power of abundance is training your mind to realize that if it doesn't work out with one person (or 10 people), there are plenty of other people out there who do want to hang out with a fantastic person like you.
Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Most men think that they need a clever line to approach a woman. But through all my years of coaching men and women, I have found that it is not what you say that's important, but how you approach.
Most women put more importance on visual clues to assess a man's character. They don't care what you say, as long as you say it without hesitation and with authority. Unfortunately, most men don't know this, so they walk over to a woman like a wounded animal expecting to be rejected. When you approach like a wounded animal, you will be rejected every single time -- no matter how clever a remark you may have.
With 80 percent of human interaction based on nonverbal body language, what is a man to do? The key to impressing her right off the bat is to be different from all the other men who are approaching her that evening.
Here a few sure-fire ways to make your approach more powerful and convincing, even if you are not sure what you are going to say:
- Walk with confidence. When you see a woman that you are attracted to, walk right over. Stand up straight and walk over slowly but with confidence. Make sure your chest is puffed out and your posture is looking strong and not slumped over. Keep eye contact as you approach. Do not hesitate. Most men linger in the background before they approach, then, when you finally do approach, she is quick to turn her back on you. The reason is that you did not exude confidence. Most women notice who is observing them.
When you do not approach within seconds of spotting her, you might as well go home.
When you do not approach within seconds of spotting her, you might as well go home.
- Lose the male pack. When out on the town,
avoid being seen with the drunken testosterone pack of males
avoid being seen with the drunken testosterone pack of males. One of the biggest turn-offs for women is the "male pack" -- you with five of your buddies high-fiving each other, drinking and checking out other women. When you approach a woman with your buddies waiting on the sideline, she will impulsively reject you in front of the pack to avoid being scrutinized later. Break away from the male pack and find one other guy to go out on the town with. Save the male bonding for a sports bar.
- Dress for a strong appearance. Make sure you're not sabotaging your efforts with your attire. If you look like a slob, it will not matter what your body language says, because you will look like every other man who put no thought into what he was going to wear that night to attract women. Buy clothing that makes you stand out from the rest of the men. Find a cool pair of jeans and some great shirts that give you an edge, so when you walk in with the right body language, women will see you. Keep in mind that shoes are really important too, so find a few pairs that look great on you.
- Create a spark within her. Most men's conversation will center on being agreeable and non-confrontational in the hopes that she likes you.
In the mind of a woman, playing it safe equals boring!
In the mind of a woman, playing it safe equals boring! You need to spark her interest by being a bit disagreeable. For example, you get into a conversation about summer movies and she says that "Spiderman III" was her favorite Spidey movie so far. Instead of being agreeable,
look her right in the eye with confidence and tell her that she is so wrong
look her right in the eye with confidence and tell her that she is so wrong -- the first Spiderman was superior. Then proceed to tell her why you think so. This will create a fun, friendly, flirtatious verbal sparring, which will create a spark in her brain. She will realize that you are not a pushover like most men and attraction will start to form in her head.
- Maintain some tension.
Flirting with women is all about gathering information
Flirting with women is all about gathering information, so the better listener you are, the better your chances. When you call her, you will have more things to talk about. Before calling a woman, I think about everything she said and then I pick the most juicy topic or opinion and challenge her with it. For example, going back to the example of "Spiderman III," I would text her the next day: "I was thinking U + I need 2 re-watch Spiderman. U R so wrong. Name the time + place + I'll bring the DVD."
She will immediately respond to the challenge and text you back. You have just learned the secret of re-creating the tension that you shared with her. Plus, you are being totally unlike every other guy who waits three days to call her and schedule a predictable dinner date.
Understanding the Basics of Genetic Disorders
You’ve heard terms like genes, DNA, the Human Genome Project, and chromosomes. But what do these words mean exactly? Increase your genetic vocabulary so you’ll understand more about genetic disorders.
What Is DNA?
DNA (deoxyribonucleic acid) carries the genetic information in the body’s cells. DNA is made up of four similar chemicals (called bases and abbreviated A, T, C, and G) that are repeated over and over in pairs.
What Is a Gene?
A gene is a distinct portion of a cell’s DNA. Genes are coded instructions for making everything the body needs, especially proteins. Human beings have about 25,000 genes. Researchers have discovered what some of our genes do, and have found some that are associated with disorders (such as cystic fibrosis or Huntington’s disease).
There are, though, many genes whose functions are still unknown.
What Are Proteins?
Proteins are chains of chemical building blocks called amino acids. A protein could contain just a few amino acids in its chain or it could have several thousands. Proteins form the basis for most of what the body does, such as digestion, making energy and growing.
What Are Chromosomes?
Genes are packaged in bundles called chromosomes. Humans have 23 pairs of chromosomes (for a total of 46). Of those, 1 pair is the sex chromosomes (determines whether you are male or female, plus some other body characteristics), and the other 22 pairs are autosomal chromosomes (determine the rest of the body’s makeup).
What Is a Mutation?
The particular order of the pairs of As, Ts, Cs, and Gs is extremely important in the DNA. Sometimes there is a mistake — one of the pairs gets switched, dropped, or repeated. This changes the coding for one or more genes. This is called genetic mutation. A mutation maybe disease-causing or harmless.
Another way the DNA code could be changed is by errors in the chromosomes. Parts of a chromosome could break off, switch with part of another chromosome, or be swapped within the same chromosome. If any of these or other mistakes occurs then changes (mutations) happen in the gene coding. Sometimes there may be 3 or more copies of a chromosome, or only one chromosome, instead of the normal pair.
TRUE LOVE AND CARE
Love and care for the one you love every single days of your life. You may think what you did is just a
small deed, but to that someone, it may mean a lot. Have a nice day everyone! May this story inspire you
in any way!
I was born in a secluded village on a mountain. Day by day, my parents plowed the yellow dry soil
with their backs towards the sky.
I have a brother who is 3 years younger than me. I wanted to buy a handkerchief, which all girls around me seemed to have. So, one day
I stole 50 cents from my father's drawer. Father had discovered about the stolen money right away.
He made me and my younger brother kneel against the wall as he held a bamboo stick in his hand.
"Who stole the money?" he asked. I was stunned, too afraid to talk. Neither of us
admitted to the fault, so he said, "Fine, if nobody wants to admit, you two should be beaten!"
He lifted up the bamboo stick.
Suddenly, my younger brother gripped father's hand and said," Dad, I was the one who did it!"
The long stick smacked my brother's back repeatedly. Father was so angry that he kept on whipping my brother until he lost his breath.
After that, he sat down on our stone bed and scolded my brother, "You have learned to steal from your own house now. What other
embarrassing things will you be possibly doing in the future? You should be beaten to death, you shameless thief!"
That night, my mother and I hugged my brother. His body was full of wounds from the beating but he never shed a single tear.
In the middle of the night, all of sudden, I cried out loudly. My brother covered my mouth with his little hand and said, " Sis, now
don't cry anymore. Everything has happened." I still hate myself for not having enough courage to admit what I did.
Years gone by, but the incident still seemed like it just happened yesterday. I will never forget my brother's ___expression when he protected me.
That year, my brother was 8 years old and I was 11 years old. When my brother was in his last year of secondary school, he was accepted
in an upper secondary school in the central. At the same time, I was accepted into a university in the province. That night, father
squatted in the yard, smoking, packet by packet.
I could hear him ask my mother, "Both of our children, they have good results? very good results?"
Mother wiped off her tears and sighed," What is the use? How can we possibly finance both of them?"
At that time, my brother walked out, he stood in front of father and said,"Dad, I don't want to continue my study anymore, I have read enough books."
Father swung his hand and slapped my brother on his face. "Why do you have a spirit so damn weak? Even if it means I have to beg for money on the streets, I will send you two to school until you have both finished your study!" And then, he started to knock on every house in the village to borrow money.
I stuck out my hand as gently as I can to my brother's swollen face, and told him, "A boy has to continue his study; If not, he will not be able to overcome this poverty we are experiencing."
I, on the other hand, had decided not to further my study at the university. Nobody knew that on the next day, before dawn, my brother left the house with a few pieces of worn-out clothes and a few dry beans. He sneaked to my side of the bed and left a note on my pillow; "Sis, getting into a university is not easy. I will go find a job and I will send money to you." I held the note while sitting on my bed, and cried until I lost my voice.
That year, my brother was 17 years old; I was 20 years old. With the money father borrowed from the whole village, and the money my brother earned from carrying cement on his back at a construction site, finally, I managed to get to the third year of my study in the university.
One day, while I was studying in my room, my roommate came in and told me,"There's a villager waiting for
you outside!" Why would there be a villager looking for me? I walked out, and I saw my brother from afar. His whole body
was covered with dirt, dust, cement and sand. I asked him, "Why did you not tell my roommate that you are my brother?"
He replied with a smile," Look at my appearance. What will they think if they would know that I am your
brother? Won't they laugh at you?" I felt so touched, and tears filled my eyes. I swept away dirt and dust from my brother's body. And told
him with a lump in my throat, " I don't care what people would say! You are my brother no matter what
your appearance is?"
From his pocket, he took out a butterfly hair clip. He put it on my hair and said, "I saw all the girls in
town are wearing it. So, I think you should also have one." I could not hold back myself anymore. I pulled my brother into my arms and cried.
That year, my brother was 20 years old; I was 23 years old. I noticed that the broken window was repaired the first time I brought my boyfriend home. The house was scrubbed cleaned.
After my boyfriend left, I danced like a little girl in front of my mother, "Mom, you didn't have to spend so much time cleaning the house!" But she told me with a smile," It was your brother who went home early to clean the house. Didn't you see the wound on his hand? He hurt his hand while he was replacing the window."
I went into my brother's bedroom. Looking at his thin face, I felt like there are hundreds of needle pricked in my heart.
I applied some ointment on his wound and put a bandage on it, "Does it hurt? " I asked him.
"No, it doesn't hurt. You know, when at the construction site, stones keep falling on my feet .
Even that could not stop me from working." In the middle of the sentence, he stopped. I turned my
back on him and tears rolled down my face.
That year, my brother was 23 years old; I was 26 years old.
After I got married, I lived in the city. Many times my husband invited my parents to come and live with us, but they didn't want.
They said, once they left the village, they wouldn't know what to do.
My brother agreed with them. He said, "Sis, you just take care of your parents-in-law. I will take care of mom and dad here."
My husband became the director of his factory. We asked my brother to accept the offer of being the
manager in the maintenance department. But my brother rejected the offer. He insisted on working as a repairman instead for a start.
One day, my brother was on the top of a ladder repairing a cable, when he got electrocuted, and was
sent to the hospital. My husband and I visited him at the hospital. Looking at the white gypsum on his leg, I grumbled, "Why did
you reject the offer of being a manager? Managers won't do something dangerous like that. Now look at
you, You ar suffering a serious injury. Why didn't you just listen to us?"
With a serious ___expression on his face, he defended his decision, "Think of brother-in-law. He just
became the director, and I being uneducated, and would become a manager, what kind of rumors would fly
around?" My husband's eyes filled up with tears, and then I said, "But you lack in education only because of me!"
"Why do you talk about the past?" he said and then he held my hand.
That year, he was 26 years old and I was 29 years old. My brother was 30 years old when he married a farmer
girl from the village.
During the wedding reception, the master of ceremonies asked him, "Who is the one person you respect and love
the most?" Without even taking a time to think, he answered," My sister." He continued by telling a story I could not
even remember.
"When I was in primary school, the school was in a different village. Everyday, my sister and I would
walk for 2 hours to school and back home. One day, I lost the other pair of my gloves. My sister gave me
one of hers.
She wore only one glove and she had to walk far. When we got home, her hands were trembling because of the
cold weather that she could not even hold her chopsticks. >From that day on, I swore that as long as
I live, I would take care of my sister and will always be good to her." Applause filled up the room. All guests turned their
attention to me. I found it hard to speak, "In my whole life, the one I would like to thank most is my brother," And in this
happy occasion, in front of the crowd, tears were rolling down my face again.
Love and care for the one you love every single days of your life. You may think what you did is just a
small deed, but to that someone, it may mean a lot. Have a nice day everyone! May this story inspire you
in any way!
May Your Day be Filled with Everything Good...
Live simply... Love generously... Care deeply...Speak kindly... Leave the rest to God.
Known things Just to revise
In the wake of two shocking incidents that took place in Bangalore and Hyderabad, couples committing suicide because of extra-marital affairs with their colleagues, I just thought of writing a small article on how to avoid such incidents. This is really a serious matter and if not dealt on at an early stage could lead to such incidents in our personal life too. I have done research on human behavior and psychology and am trying to put-in some text which may (or may not) be helpful to you. Never-the-less I feel it's worth knowing such things and if possible every individual can make a conscious effort to more or less follow the same.
Some people don't take advice but taking good advice may do you no harm. Thos who are not married this is the best article as before starting a new relationship if you are ready for it, will only help you to lead a happy life.
Read on….
We spend 40/45/50/60 hours a week with our colleagues. This is the most we spend with any members of our family. So it's obvious they are an integral part of our life. Good, understood. But an important point to remember is colleagues are colleagues and not friends and if you think they are friends then you are highly mistaken. Imagine working together for 9 hours a day together and then returning home and continuing to talk with your colleague on phone. This is what happened with that Infosys guy who could not stand this behavior of his wife and killed her and committed suicide. Which husband would like his wife talking on phone with her colleague and that too male counterpart? Or which wife will like her husband doing the same? Just keep yourself in that situation and see. Anger will creep in within you.
So whatever gossip or topic you want to discuss with your colleagues do it during office hours and once you are out of office forget about your work and your colleagues unless it's official matter.
Just check this unnecessary talk…
A guy and her colleague walking out of office at 6.30p.m. At 7.30 or 8.00 the guy calls that female,
Guy: Hi, how are you? Where have you reached? (Don't you know how she is and where she must be at this time)
Lady: I am fine. Reached home.
Guy: What are you cooking today?
Lady: So and so (Now here the lady knows that the guy has called to flirt with her and the call is unnecessary. It's the duty of the female to say something to avoid that guy. If she doesn't at this stage then this call will be going for another 30-45 mins and questions like 'When will you be taking bath? What time you will sleep? What will you bring for me for breakfast for tomorrow will creep in?' and imagine the state of the family members of that lady at this point.
They expect the lady to come and talk with them for sometime but here this lady is enjoying a talk with the guy with whom she has been working since morning. No wonder such people will have a horrendous married life.
A simple thing to think about. Say you are not married. You go to office and come back say at 6.00 in the evening. You have so much of time left. Can't you read some books and increase your knowledge rather than spending one-two hours on mobile. Girls can start experimenting with new dishes. Main thing to understand is such gossiping on calls becomes on habit and bad habits die-hard. You will be addicted to talking and this can be bad as time goes on. One you start working you have to come out of college life. In college you could enjoy, flirt, do anything you wanted. But this is real life. Be responsible or else you will be responsible for your terrible life and the life if your husband/wife.
Any person no matter who he/she is would never like his/her wife/husband having such relationship with her/his colleagues.
Last year 90% of divorce happened because of Extra-Marital Affairs and in that 80% because of relationships with colleagues. And we would not like this to happen with us.
So start from now.
Guys see to it that you don't put an habit of calling you female-colleagues after office hours or on weekends or holidays, even if they provoke you or give missed calls. Let them spend time with their family members or other friends. You also do the same. Good girls don't give missed calls. And girls who give I need not say what kind of girls they are. Stay away from them. You can talk as much as you want in office. And gals, if any guy calls you then it's not bad to say 'No, Let's talk in office' or 'I am busy, talk with you tomorrow' to that guy. Do it twice and they will automatically stop calling. Guys have this habit of flirting and you allowing them to flirt will only help them do more. Relationships can always be maintained in right manner. Never succumb to emotional pressure like 'You don't want to talk with me or what' or 'You can call him but you can't call me' or 'You talk for so and so time with her but with me only this much'. Some people fall for this because they don't want to lose a friend. Again I say colleague is not a friend. They are just here to work and keep on moving in their life. They go to other company, go for growth and so on. They will not wait for you in the same office to be with you forever.
So don't be emotionally attached with your colleagues. They are competitors and always on their toes to show you down in front of seniors and managers. You may not realize now but this is a fact, be ready for it.
Imagine a girl getting married and someone says to her to be husband that guy over there is the one who regularly calls your wife or your wife gives missed calls or calls that guy. Always this thing will remain on the back of his mind. Similarly someone tells the bride that your groom always keeps calling that girl or vice-versa…. Imagine yourself at that place. Situations arise because we allow them to. No one can lead ideal life but we can always make an sincere effort to lead one.
Another note to be taken about: (strictly male to female and female to male contexts)
If your colleague calls you. Just check out whether if he calls others also. If he doesn't then find out why? No guy will call other girl if he is not interested in that girl. In a group there can be five females but it's not necessary that a guy calls all five. He will only call the one on whom he is interested.
Similarly, a girl will not give missed call to everyone. If she gives then she must be really lonely. Stay away from them or you will be caught in their loving talk. Guys normally fall for girls because of their beauty or their talk. So if a guy colleague comes to you and proposes you then it's not his mistake completely, it's more of yours because you were the one who used to give him that space.
Also you become a topic of gossip among your fellow colleagues if they come to know that one of their colleague is calling you and not calling others. And there is nothing more dangerous than office gossip. It can cost you your job and just remember how easily you got this job.
So please keep your office and it's people at office and lead a normal happy life. For your good and for the good of your spouse. Send it to your colleagues, friends, relatives, parents and everyone and avoid incidents like the one mentioned at the beginning of this article. If you feel anyone is doing anything mentioned above then just go and tell him/her. You will be helping someone in their life.