Well, you have been dating this Mr. Nice for some time now and everyone including mommy dearest feels he is a perfect match for you. But try hard as you may, you cannot decide on this one. Is he playing Jekyll and Hyde with me? Is he really as nice as he appears to be? Will I know the real him in 1 month? Will his true side come to the fore in 6 months? Is there such a thing as love at first sight? Such and similar questions keep haunting most of us, teetering on the threshold of 'should I? should I not?'
You may or may not be able to find a fool proof solution to these issues, but there are a few truths that hold true in almost all cases. For starters do not rush into a relationship. Take your time in knowing the person (time frame varies and there is no such thing as an 'ideal time schedule') before you commit yourself to the person.
Observing the person will help you understand his behaviour and how he handles issues like stress, tension and pressures.
Quick engagements seldom if at all work, so try and avoid these if you can.
Time and instinct peppered with a healthy dose of common sense should help you decide if you are going to be 'compatible' with the other person.
As a general observation, most couples can decide within six to eight months if they are compatible enough for the march to the altar.
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