Everyone has a mental image of their ideal mates but rarely does one meet someone who embodies all these perfect qualities. If it were up to you to create that your ideal woman you would probably put together all the good qualities of former girlfriends, “I'd give her Nina’s sense of humour, Simran’s eyes, Maya’s honesty, and Ayesha’s income.” On the flip side you may not even be so sure of what you really want and may be sailing along in the hope that, “I'll know Ms. Right when I see her.” A hundred girlfriends later, and you’ll still be searching!
A simple and easy way of deciding whether a certain person is right for you would be to evaluate five general areas of compatibility: emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, and financial. Assess yourself and your potential mate in these areas objectively and honestly.
Emotional: Self-esteem, respect of others, emotional stability and expression.
• Are you confident about yourself before being able to love someone else or letting her love you back?
• Does she believe you when you say, "I love you," and considers herself worthy of your love?
• Does she handle anger well? Is she prone to unhealthy or prolonged bouts of depression?
Spiritual: Outlook on life, perspective on death, ethics and religious persuasion.
• What values or beliefs do you hold sacred and do you expect the same from the woman you marry?
• What values do you want to be instilled in your children?
• Can you marry outside your faith? How will it affect your family, especially parents?
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