In today's world, this is a problem not unheard of. Parents do not openly disregard their son's choice because they know it will not be entertained but, at the same time, they don't fully accept his choice either. They play cold, make the girl feel unwanted and hope for their son and the girl to part ways soon. What should a guy caught in such a situation do?
1. Don’t over react
Over reaction will only make things worse. Feeling bad is obvious but do not openly announce mutiny against your parents. Distancing yourself from your partner just because your parents dislike her is not justified either. After all, what is the guarantee they will like another girl that you choose for yourself? The best way out is to wait for time to pass and see how things proceed. For all you know, this unpleasant phase might just pass.
2. Talk to your parents to discuss issues but do not fight
Take your parents out for a relaxed dinner and bring up the topic. Find out what’s bothering them. If they have valid reasons, talk to your partner and sort them out. If they do not like the way she speaks or how she behaves with them or have felt uncomfortable with an incident, it can always be sorted out. But if there is no logic behind their disliking or if the reasons are not acceptable to you, then it’s important for you to take a stand and let them know about it.
3. Stick to your stand and be sure of your choice
Once you take a stand, be sure of it and do not dwindle. If your parents figure that you are weak in your commitment towards the girl, they are bound to try to create more distances between the two of you. Keep dropping hints to let them know that the girl makes you happy and is here to stay. On seeing your dedication towards her and the relationship, they might just start opening to the idea of getting to know her better.
4. Don’t tell her the bitter details
If your mother thinks that her family isn’t good enough or that she isn’t pretty enough for you then you don’t really have to tell her these details. These bitter words will linger in her head and constantly hurt her, even after years, and might prevent her from being nice to them.
5. Be ready to rough it out
It is likely that your liking for your partner may take you away from your family. But if you do decide to take your relationship with your girl to another level, be sure not to take out the anger of your strained relationship with your parents on her. You will have to accept that given the situation you are in, one of your loved ones will have to go. So take a call and live it through.
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